My daughter is texting me with vast quantities of wedding questions because she is bored in her Shakespeare class. (How is that POSSIBLE???? Is she not her mother's child? I LOVE Shakepeare!) Anyway, she is getting on my nerves, so I am going to blog about her.
The age-old question parents ask: "Why did you DO that???" To which the child replies: "I dunno. But everybody else was." Parental wisdom: "If all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you?"
The answer is yes. For both my children. But for different reasons. Neither of my kids are followers, neither would jump just because everybody else did, but boy are they both competitive!!!! (Where do they get this???)
For the purposes of the following comparison, we will assume here that bridge-jumping is not fatal, but merely stupid.
Here's how Kacey would jump: Everybody else has decided to jump. She runs to be the first in line, because she will not be outdone. She runs to make an instant jump - except . . . she is afraid of heights. Now she is standing on the edge of the bridge having second thoughts, as everyone else pushes by her and jumps, but doggone it, she has already decided to jump and she WILL NOT change her mind. After much internal debate and determination, and more than just a few tears, she jumps - not because anybody else did or didn't, but because she decided to, and for Kacey, making the decision is biggest battle. (This is my theory as to why she waited so long to go out with Nathan and why she said "yes" so quickly. She knows that once she makes up her mind, that's it, no matter what.)
Here's how Kevin would jump: He will stand at the bottom of the bridge and watch everyone else jump. He will critique their styles and methods, heckle them as they fall, and think through all the pros and cons of bridge-jumping. After everyone else has jumped and gone away, he will assemble the needed supplies and fortitude, climb the bridge and jump - with no one else watching. Then, of course, he will brag about how much better he did it than everyone else with no way to prove himself. (This is pretty much how he has done everything else in his life from potty-training to swimming to tying his shoes to reading to . . . you name it!)
I just read this post to Kevin and he laughed hysterically all the way through it. He knows it is so true!